“When Words Hurt”

“When Words Hurt”

Most of us do our best to be strong and act as if we let the scalding Hot water from others tongue roll off our back. I mean, sometimes our Children say things to us that hurt. Sometimes our friends say things that hurt us, and sometimes it’s just a stranger that spouts off something. In our culture, we typically see and categorize two types of people based on their reaction to the words of others. There are those that cry foul at any word spoken that doesn’t completely line up with their views, and then we have the other type of folk who claim apathy.

We have a responsibility to the words that come out of our mouths as Christians as well as our reaction to the words of others. I have been in Christian ministry for 16 years personally, and I have been around Christianity and Church-life my entire life. I know all too well the effects of the tongue in the lives of Christians as well as in the life of the local Church. The power of the tongue is incredible. We can either build one another up, or we can tear one another down. No action puts men and women at odds with each other as often as does our Words!

Proverbs 18:21—“Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.”

What we say to and about one another will determine life and death of our self as well as the one we’re speaking of or to. Oh, it may not mean literal life or death, but it certainly can mean that spiritually speaking. We have the power to potentially control the perception of others toward the one we speak of. That can be a double-edged sword. Oh, that we would take to heart the directive of this verse. Let us love one another, and speak only of the good qualities of that person. When we do this, others have a good perception of that person and could very well be the one that helps to build that person up.
Romans 12:17, 18–“17 Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men. 18 If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.”

It would be foolish to pretend that others don’t attack us sometimes with their tongue. Often, folk will cast doubt on us in others and the very first thing that we wish to do, is get even. The Bible teaches us that it is Sin to speak evil one of another or to spread tale’s of Gossip and ill motif’d talk. As hard as it is, we must take the high road. Paul tells us to pay no man back with evil just because they have spoken evil of and or to you. Consistency is our best friend in most areas of our life. If we consistently live peaceably with all men, then our consistency will defend us and speak for us in an incredible way. Whether we want to admit it or not, most people know what kind of people we are. They know whether we are encouragers, downers, back-stabbers, or good people that strive to get along with everyone.

I personally have to work everyday of my life to examine the words that come out of my mouth. Each word must be examined to see whether it helps or harms. May we as Christians, guard our tongue with the utmost discernment; that we may be more like Christ everyday of our life. Words build up, words tear down. Choose today which side your tongue will be on.

In His Service,

Pastor Ancel